Build-a-Boo Workshop

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From time to time, a woman might express her loneliness or impatience in finding a mate on social networks. I get that. Some times your Facebook page or Twitter account are your outlet to say what’s on your mind at that moment. What irritates me to not end is the “God is going to make a man just for you” reply that almost always comes after. This is not Build-a-Bear Workshop, that’s number 1. Relationships are work and there’s no person tailor made for you. You have to compromise, sacrifice and bend some. There will be miscommunications, disagreements and even disappointments. There has to be something in that person that you know, it’s all worth it. Every bit of work you put it should be rewarding. The ups gotta outweigh the downs. Your relationship has to be an investment of time and energy with a great return.

While it’s hard to believe people are still believing in fairy tales in their adulthood, it’s pretty obvious. The divorce rate is sky high for a reason. I think people go into it expecting to live happily ever after, not realizing the work it takes. Maybe it’s expecting a person to be this custom model mate who is supposed to fall in line with your inner most desires. Even if the person has the personality traits and aesthetics you prefer, there’s still effort involved.

Don’t let people police your feelings. You can still be a confident and happy person who gets lonesome. Mostly, don’t go expecting this Nike ID ass mate because somebody spent you for FB likes and retweets.


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You’re here, I’m pleased. I really dig your company….


I’m a Chicago native living in sunny Southern California. Yes, it does rain. My blog will be like Seinfeld…a blog about nothing…and everything. I have being random down to an artform, so why not frame and display it.


A few things:

  1. I swear a lot. I believe cursed ideas are a whole helluva lot worse than curse words.

  2. I love Chicago and you will hear about it.

  3. I don’t like to edit myself.

  4. I don’t mean to offend people but I do. My bad…kinda.

  5. I’m harsh on religion. I’m talking gloves off harsh.

  6. I’m unapologetically Black.

  7. I’m a womanist. Ovaries over brovaries.

  8. I will fight a pack of wolves over my Gram.

  9. My sister is my heart.

  10. I’m sensitive

  11. My spelling is pretty okay but grammar..meh. I type faster than I think.

  12. It’ll be most light hearted around these parts but there will be some serious posts about race, colorism and sexism from time to time.

  13. I have the best friends any girl could ask for.

  14. I love my boo.

  15. I’m a natural hair advocate.

  16. I’m running out of stuff

Blog posts will come about once a week.

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